30 Mar

it’s almost march 31 and i don’t have my postcards completed. i got a late start and i’ve been struggling with them. the postcards are not intricate or difficult. it’s me.

i need to rewind back several months-even years. sylvia is my friend. i met her some twenty plus years ago in a work environment. we took some college courses together. she is so mental. by that i mean she thinks ALL the time. even when it looks like she’s loafing, her wheels, they are a turning. we shared a love of reading and often discussed and shared books. for a short time, we even belonged to a classic book club. fast forward 10 years and our lives took different paths. i moved out of the area. she married. i stopped working in corporate america. she divorced. she moved. we’d lost touch with each other for the past few years.

about a year ago, she kept popping into my head. i’d wonder where she was and what she was doing. what books was she reading? who was in her life? was she happy? over a period of months, i looked in the phone book for her. no sylvia. i remembered she had family in another city, so i looked for her there. no sylvia. i googled her. i switchboarded her. i facebooked her. nothing. nada.

then one day last fall i thought to facebook her son. and found him. i messaged him and it took several weeks but he put me in touch with his mom. sylvia was very sick. and she wasn’t going to get better. there was little i could do. even visiting her was challenging because many times she wasn’t up to it and the times it did work, after a very short time, she was worn out. we ran out of time. my friend sylvia died on february 27, 2010.

i gave her a quilt. not one that i had newly finished. i gave her one of my favorites. one that i’d loved for years. one of the first quilts i ever longarmed. one of the first lines of fabrics that we purchased when we had the quilt shop.

i had decided to send her a fabric postcard each month to let her know i was thinking of her.

february january decembernovember

i can’t even put into words how precious little it feels like i was able to do for her.

march’s postcard is titled “sylvia”.

i’m still working on them. i wish i had more time.


8 Responses to “sylvia”

  1. Jan March 31, 2010 at 7:26 am #

    Sending you a big hug this morning.

  2. Freda Henderson March 31, 2010 at 7:42 am #

    I’m so sorry for your friend, Kay. I’m glad you found her and was able to talk to her and give her your favorite quilt.

  3. Karen March 31, 2010 at 8:53 am #

    You may have reconnected for a very brief time but I know you were a bright spot in her final days. You were a very thoughtful and caring friend to Sylvia. Hugs.

  4. Tammie R March 31, 2010 at 9:42 am #

    Big hugs, Kay. I have a friend who thinks ALL the time – your description reminded me of her. I’m glad you were able to reconnect with your good friend. I know she thought the world of those postcards and your precious quilt. What a loving gesture from you.

  5. Diana W. March 31, 2010 at 5:12 pm #

    Big hug Kay…I feel you friend. I’m so sorry this story had a sad ending. 😦

  6. sammi March 31, 2010 at 7:23 pm #

    What a loving friend you were to her and are to those left behind. (((Hugs)))

  7. Christine Olson April 2, 2010 at 10:48 am #

    So sorry to hear of your loss but how very nice that you were able to reconnect before she left this world. That connection was meant to be. Sounds like you both were given an unexpected blessing. Sending hugs and good thoughts to you.

  8. TeresaL April 4, 2010 at 11:30 am #

    I’m very behind on my online reading and just came across your blog post. I’m so sorry that your friend is gone. Your thoughtful gifts to her, each month, must have brightened her days. The postcards, your time, your creativity, your caring & love….all beautiful gifts to someone who knew your friendship was deep, real and lasting. A blessing for both of you. I’m so sorry to read of your loss.

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